349,985 notes • 2:23 PM

i wish to be viewed as a human being

not to be asked

when are u 2 going to get married

doesn’t he want to get a marriage

how many kids do u want

if ur not thinking about marriage he is using u 

bla bla

I am a human being

I make my decisions

I am not a body or a thing that can get used

I am not a piece of meat u need to get rid of or else I’m going to rot (read get old and ugly) and no one will need me

I am not a thing to be owned

I am not a pet who needs a caretaker

I can make my own decisions

I can feel satisfied with myself without a recognition from the opposite gender in a form of proposal

It is not respect when parents say that someone should marry u just because u two have sex

it’s disrespect because when they think or say things like that they are thinking about u as a piece of meat that can be used

my body is nothing

i am a soul

do u ask your sons have they slept with their girlfriends and then try to pressure them to somehow make the marriage happen so the girl is not using him?

why is female body used? how come that male body somehow is never used in the eyes of society?

sorry about the terrible english but a rant is a rant

" When a man says no in this culture, it’s the end of the discussion. When a woman says no, it’s the beginning of a negotiation. "
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Gavin De Becker (via dandyions)

Remember what Oprah said, everyone. “No is a complete sentence.”

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" These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’

Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.
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Why it’s so hard for men to see misogyny (via ethiopienne)

BOOOM.  Read this if you are a dude, please.

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Yesssssss.

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Its hard for men to understand why women dont get loud & angry because they havent spent their entire lives being reprimanded whenever they take up too much space. (via pluralfloral)

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